Open relationships from the heart

Monogamy is a prayer for many people, but some people think it is only a belief and a choice. There are hundreds of people in the world, and there are always different ways of taking things. One of that way is Open relationship. And we might called it polyamory relationship. For those who have an open relationship, they are loyal to each relationship, but there is more than one object. Love can be divided among many people.

Whether it’s reading The Ethical Slut or listening to The sharing of multiple/open relationships, The core of The relationship is not sexual, it’s about building a more complete and healthy self. The open and changeful term makes the person in it have to confront the traumatic and dark side of their lives. Escape to the periphery of the monogamous system, is a monogamous system can be seen the mainstream discourse lies – “stability” is provided by a one-to-one relationship can’t protect anyone from the feeling of jealousy or insecurity.

Jealousy, or insecurity, so much that other emotions are not caused by anyone or anything, that is, no one should be held responsible for anyone’s emotions. This kind of relationship also exists between bisexuals and gays in bisexual playground. Only we are responsible for our own emotions. Although this decision is not completely by consciousness, sometimes by precipitation many unconscious accidental events in one’s life, we still have the ability to determine how we should to emotional response.

The source of the emotion is attributed to the responsibility, which makes it impossible to externalize the problem to the other person/environment. Adopting this approach a government blame to others is to assume more responsibility, but more importantly, we take this empowerment for oneself, the mood back under the control of their own, therefore has the initiative to solve the problem. This is what Confucianism calls the spirit of “asking for what you want”. This understanding of emotions monogamous system, it is not difficult to find that monogamous system as a one-to-one relationship to resolve the emotions such as jealousy method is just the problem externalizing, instead deprived people’s initiative.

Polyamory relationship with heavy by revealing each other from individual to individual self and the deep mind of links, so when three people are in a relationship, will be fully implemented, hidden in the deep consciousness and even unconscious trait or trauma. By strong normative power monogamous system, made in one of the people are more likely to suppress or ignoring to handle themselves and each other due to trauma and other life experiences to develop the traits and emotional reactions.

Open relationships and threesome dating relations due to the fundamentally challenged participants bore, director of the social culture of emotional script, so multiple relations practitioners are more likely to being in open relationships in mainstream relationship is regarded as reasonable emotion, emotional scripts such as jealousy.

In other words, throuple dating were more emotionally demanding for participants than monogamous relationships. Open relations practitioners not to suppress or ignoring to deal with their own emotional responses, and must meditate inner soul, be filled with a variety of emotional information, and actively bring profound and broad heart, otherwise will only lead to relationship breakdown.

I think that’s why I like them, even though I know that some of my body is a little hungry, and I’m still living on solid ground.