5 advice to open relationship and polyamory

People who attempt to have an open relationship are considered clearly, what road they will walk is a new road of exploration, culture without too much discipline, stereotypes about open relationship and throuple were small, they will break the ancient customs, to some extent and create new things, it totally depends on the two sides agreed rules. Then, on the other hand, the hidden danger of monogamy may be, we have been taught too much appearance of marriage, so we are very easy to fell into the content of the discipline, we will try to do formal, but not necessarily to look forward to on both sides. But if we are conscious, perhaps we can also adjust our monogamous relationship, which I think can be the revelation:

1. Look at gender stereotypes: those “men would think, women would think” “men are so, women are” old gender view to go outside the cloud nine, gender stereotypes set to a partner’s biggest problem is that you in the imagination of people fall in love with you, hard to achieve the real understanding between you. This advice also works for throuple dating.
2. Open communication: in an open relationship, people will share their feelings and make sure that they agree on each other before making every attempt to avoid the harm in the relationship. And if people can be so cautious in monogamous relationships, there may be fewer problems. Form no matter what kind of relationship, one of the most important between two people is trust, and trust is not just limited to trust each other will not betray yourself, more is: can I can’t express myself in a partner? Can I feel the security of being accepted? Can I trust each other to understand and support me? Can I trust that the other person will care about my happiness and my well-being? Trust is an important foundation for the conclusion of intimacy. If intimacy and trust can reach a higher level, it is natural for both sides to feel that they cannot be replaced and that there will be less conflict.
3. Don’t give up too soon: there are two ways to quit, one is to give up expectations and feel that what you expect will not be met, that you will have a negative feeling about the relationship, and less investment in the relationship. The other is to leave relationships. In an open relationship constantly attempt and explore appropriate rules of both sides, this shows that the relationship can be established only belong to both sides of the relational schema, this process might be a process of constant communication negotiations. When relationship problems arise, communicate in time. If you feel weak, you can ask outside for support, help from friends or relatives, or seek professional advice in bisexual playground.
4. Border relationship: discussing the principle of an open relationship, we should put forward in order to protect themselves to protect each other, to find a balance, rationally determine what you need, what sort of things did you want to deliver. That measure should be able to make you feel safe and not feel violated. In monogamous relationships boundary are equally important, don’t do it for your own security excessive to encroach on other’s privacy, you will create a happy relations atmosphere of spontaneous share a sense of security, rather than an aggressive to the other party must open ourselves. The delicate balance is also a consensus that the two sides are constantly communicating and understanding. A relationship without privacy is not necessarily the best polyamory relationship, and a fraught relationship can be a worry. Where is the balance? You need to explore it yourself.
5. Balance of power: relationship must exist in the power of the game, in fact is also difficult to maintain the balance of the relationship between enduring state, so from the perspective of reality, the power of the balance board on two alternating tilt, the advantage of the power exists transformation, and the transformation of power range is not big, still can be considered to be healthy. Unhealthy relationship is absolute power is absolute advantage and disadvantage, advantage party rarely become disadvantage party, and the power difference is too big, underdog easily can’t express themselves in a relationship, please pattern formation, when required by the advantages offered, underdog feel difficult to refuse, so although looks for the behaviour of the two sides agreed to, but in fact there is stress shadows. This state of affairs is a manifestation of abusive relationships, and in fact very many traditional marriages are in this state.